If you approach, you win — no matter what happens. Most guys are too focused and concerned about a conversation going well and walking away with a phone number. This is a big mistake. Look at it this way: As long as you open your mouth and say something — anything at all — you’re doing what 95% of guys can only dream about. Congratulate yourself the instant you start the conversation — after all, you’re already a cut above the rest. Once you’ve made this initial verbal contact, relax and enjoy the chat with her.
One reason you hesitate to start talking to her is because it feels uncomfortable to take the leap. But the fact is, it’s more uncomfortable not to. Think about it: If you approach her, you may be nervous at first, but before you know it, the conversation is over. And if you don’t approach her, you’ll wish you had, and you’ll carry that regret with you for the rest of the day. Save yourself the agony and go talk to her.
When most guys see a woman they’d like to meet, they immediately view her as a potential date,which creates all sorts of pressure. Instead, look at the next woman you meet as an opportunity to work on your “skills.” This “mindset shift” helps you to be less attached to the outcome, in turn, making you more relaxed and more likely to start the conversation. Don’t forget: You also improve the chances of it turning out to be a fun experience for everyone.
Author: Neil Strauss- Ask Men.com