1. Tell the Truth
There’s a fine line between mysterious and rude—don’t cross it. “You’re rude when you don’t fulfill promises, like saying you’re going to call and not calling, or saying you’re going to show up and not showing up. You want to be someone whose word can be relied on. So if you’re not going to really call tomorrow, simply say, “I had a great time, I’d love to do this again soon.” You’ll show interest and can follow up on your own time without letting her down or appearing too needy.
2. Play Tennis
Not literally, but figuratively. You hit the ball to her, she hits the ball back. Read: If you call her, and she doesn’t answer, then don’t call her again. The too-nice guy keeps calling, and the jerk would say, ‘call me later’ and not be there. Giving her space to hit the ball back leaves you looking interested and confident.
3. Talk Yourself Up
The trick to looking busy: actually being busy. There’s a reason women love rock stars, athletes, and actors: They’re excellent in a certain category, and that’s attractive. Ask her what she’s doing in her off-hours, too. Every woman wants a guy who’s got a full life that he loves—with room for her.
4. Delay the Date
When you first meet someone, remember: they’re a stranger—and you wouldn’t just drop everything for a stranger. If you meet on a Saturday, don’t call her for brunch on Sunday morning. Instead, call on Monday, and schedule a date for Thursday. Relationships build slowly over time, and that pace should start from day one.